February last year, I became single after closing an 11-month long relationship, which was beautiful enough to last for a time but not forever. And funnily as if there wasn’t any better time, on that perfect lovely day when exclusively (or not) dating young men and ladies, boyfriends and girlfriends, engaged and married couples, and all other kinds of lovers were celebrating their love – February 14, 2013 – I declared to all my systems from my split ends to the callouses on my toes that at least for one year, I will have no other lover than myself. That was a deal.
And I made it to a year all to myself.
During little gatherings with friends or side chats with officemates, a usual question would make its way to the convo, “Don’t you miss dating someone?” Damn it, of course I do, even until now. I miss that feeling, you know what I’m talking about.
But such question, though tempting and strongly suggestive, also appeared to challenge me as to how far I can go with the deal. And I’m glad I managed to keep myself at pace.
Through this period, albeit relatively short, I believe I’ve come to understand a lot about loving myself and the lessons keep coming.
1. Love yourself and love it more each and every day. Because it is wise to realize that if in case no one else will be there to love you, you have your very own self who will never leave you come what may.
2. Those who leave are not meant to stay. So please don’t allot an eternity to mourn on a breakup. You don’t have forever to fool around a drama not worth crying for. Always be ready to get your shit together and love again, with a little bit more caution than before.
3. If you love yourself, you become a sturdy foundation of a lasting relationship. Otherwise, your lack of confidence, trust, and respect for yourself might even cause your partner to question him/herself how s/he did even come to like you.
I know it sounds like I recommend staying single. Well, up to you. We all have our own preferences in life.
As for me, I’m up for anything. If love from another human being comes my way, then let him be my guest. And if he’s worth it, I will let him see the grandeur of having me. 😉